catching up generally

i am about halfway through the book, and still love everything about it. my blog posts are going to be random, so bear with me...this is how my mind tends to work...randomly-  lol.

Gretchen has this list of secrets of adulthood that she has learned along the way... and there are a few that i came to accept as things i really really need to improve on myself... here they are-
~ happiness doesnt always make you feel happy
~what you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while
~you dont have to be good at everything
~by doing a little each day, you can get alot accomplished

i am generally a happy person... i try not to dwell on negative things, i have a beautiful family, a modest house, we arent wealthy, but we make do with what we have.  i have learned to not worry about things i have no real control over, and not let too many things bother me. i guess im a believer in "what will be will be"  its like that serenity prayer..."Lord grant me the serenity to accept things i cannot change, courage to change the things i can, and wisdom to know the difference"  
    I am the only person i can really change... i cant change other people except in the fact that if i am a happier person, it might help others be happier too. i can be a positive role model for my kids and hope they choose to be happy in their own life, and what more can i wish for them. 
    when my mom died, i went into a depression, that i still deal with to this day... she was my best friend, and i miss her terribly...but i cant change the fact that she is gone now, but i can live happier knowing she would want me to. so many times i will see something or hear a song that reminds me of her, and instead of crying and moping about in sadness that she isnt here with me, i smile remembering why that song, or that thing reminds me of her.  i have to rely on my faith that there is a greater reason that she is gone, and maybe one day i will know that reason. 

what you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while-  routines, telling my family i love them, cleaning up clutter in my house, playing with my kids... a few things that struck me right away...just yesterday on the way to the doctor we saw a car accident where a car slammed into the back of a semi truck that was stopped at a red light... my husband and i both thought there was no way that driver survived by the looks of the car... luckily she did, but i wondered if she had told her family she loved them before she left the house...knowing that could be the last time she saw them...

happiness doesnt always make you feel happy- big one- hard to come to terms with... this is something that came into play with my marriage,and some bad decisions that i still am not going to go into... but i am happily married. does my husband always make me happy- no. i have come to accept that...lol i love him for who he is, and i cant change that. im sure im no peach to live with and i need to try to not be so grouchy with my family. but i am happy with being a fruit salad...

by doing a little each day, you can get alot accomplished- this is something that is going to be on my to do list every day soon... i have a book that i bought a long time ago, something like the 15 minute organizer, or something along those lines...   my house is a catch all for everything... we have clutter in every room, and i hate it. i grew up in a house that we kept clean most always...i mean it was chore after chore...i tend to look at the mess now, and feel no motivation to do it because there is soooo much to do... so i have started a to-do list and will keep adding to it, be it little tasks or big tasks, and work on the list a little at a time... i , like gretchen feel a sense of accomplishment when i can cross things off a list as done...

you dont have to be good at everything is one i have issues with... i like to be good at everything i do... it is a sad flaw, but i dont like to half ass anything. you wouldnt know it by looking at my mess of a house, but i have always liked the saying   if it is worth doing, it is worth doing well... im very competetive. i thrive on recognition, and praise...again another flaw. man i have alot of thing i need to work on...

till i ramble more in a few minutes...